ikr where are all the heartthrobs who are heartthrobs because they manage not to suck, not because they’re the first and only hot guy to acknowledge the girl is worth anything. My heart does not throb for men who are shocked a woman is capable of possessing more than one positive quality. Or men whose idea of a compliment involves the words “hot” and “pedophile”. I have this quirky little preference for guys to just like, talk to me about books instead of telling me how much of hard-on it gives them that I know how to read? Drifting away from John Green specifically, you get this same problem with geek guys in general; like the five of them that are willing to believe your interests are actually your interests think the height of flattery is to tell you how totally hot it is that a girl reads comics and a girl plays Final Fantasy and a girl can sit all the way through Star Wars whoa marry me already!
First of all, I make comics, you don’t even want to know the degree to which I have crushed Final Fantasy X (can you say entire sphere grid with every character), and I watched the entire original trilogy every day after school for three years and I’m not even that into Star Wars. Fucking ask me how many times I’ve read The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy no wait don’t because I’m not sure I can count that high. But golly gosh I sure did found my high school’s anime club so you could tell me I have the nicest skin at the whole con! And in that vein, you are not complimenting me, you are putting down other women. It does not make me feel pretty to be told that other girls are ugly. I don’t feel smart when a man tells me that other girls are stupid. I feel like probably I am talking to a huge asshole, and like I am probably going to leave and talk to somebody else.
To me the really frustrating thing about the “under-utilized nerd girl” is that while dude nerds are throwing these massive bitchfits about how nerdery was their shield and sword and no one understands and then shitting themselves sideways when a girl knows how to copy/paste they are also completely ignoring how infinitely worse it is to be a nerd and a girl. Boy nerds only have to put up with normies; we have to put up with normies and them. “Psh, you only want that shield because it’s shiny, not getting gutted is actually important to us!”
Yeah, there’s not fewer nerd girls to go around, man, we don’t want to talk to you. Because you’re dicks.